Valuing ourselves comes with many prohibitions. Many of us were taught that giving too much attention to our own selves, our own lives, is myopic and selfish. That we should be outwardly focused, looking for what we can do for others that makes our life worthwhile. And being of service, giving to others, is definitely noble. But not at the cost of being of service and giving to ourselves.
Almost everyone I come in contact with experiences at least some part of their life as being not good enough. I talk about this often because it feels like a belief that runs so deep in our lives as to rob us of any sense of worthiness, of valuing who we are. We believe we have to give our lives to others or get someplace different than where we—more love, success, enlightenment, a specific experience—are to experience value. We measure our accomplishments , or lack thereof, as a yardstick of our worth and value.
We compare our lives to others, sometimes feeling superior, oftentimes feeling inferior, as though our experience isn’t as good as another’s. When we do this, we are not seeing the truth of who we are, and we are not seeing the full truth of who they are—only a selected sliver of each life.
Our value is in just being who we are—truly authentic, real, right here in this moment. When we relax into this moment, we allow ourselves to be who we are right here, right now. And this moment is the most valuable thing, the most precious thing—in fact it is all we ever have and the way life is manifesting right now.
When our heart and soul is touched by the realness of this moment and the realness of ourselves being who we are in this moment, a love and appreciation for ourselves and the very truth of being alive rises up. There’s nowhere to go, nothing to be but just right here, right now opening into the fullness of the present moment.
What is this present moment teaching you about life and who you are in it?
Every moment, whether we perceive it as good or bad, pleasure or pain, is nothing but the truth manifesting. By accepting it for how it is rather than resisting it by wanting it be something different, we can be nurtured by what it offers.
There is intrinsic value in this moment and in us as we live into its teaching—our heart opens, revealing its depth, fullness and riches. Valuing the moment means it is ok to value ourselves, everybody and everything. We realize we don’t have to accomplish anything for our life to be worthwhile, it is simply who we are.
We can accomplish and achieve all kinds of things, not to feel of value, but to express who we are. We have the treasures inside of us and every moment we can choose how we want to express those treasures. How fun is that!?!
All the best,
Diane Ingram, PCC