In my work as a life coach, I frequently meet people in their forties, fifties and sixties, who have built their life around a career that someone else told them they would be good at—an uncle urged them to follow in his footsteps and go into law, a teacher saw talent in science and talked them into going to medical school—yet they feel they have spent their entire lives doing things that have not brought them the satisfaction they desired.
As a college student, when everyone is asking you “What’s your major?” it is tempting to grab for anything that seems remotely interesting that someone has pointed to, in order to have an answer to give.
And before you know it, you are well on your way to a career with a mortgage, family and, eventually, college payments for your own children, feeling trapped in that career—fulfilling or not.
It is wonderful to have someone mentor you, someone who cares enough to make suggestions for you and help you with those challenging life questions. But if you get caught up in wanting to please them in that moment of uncertainty, then they end up being the shapers and decision makers of your future, not you.
“What do you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
When you are in your late teens and early twenties and searching for direction, it is vital that you take the time to ask yourself some deep questions—
- “What is it that I feel passionate about?
- What gifts do I have that I enjoy giving to others?
- What in my heart of hearts would I do with my life if I knew I could not fail and money was no object?”
As you explore these questions, you begin to reveal the seeds of your life’s purpose that have the potential to bloom into a life full of rich adventure and magic.